THE ADVANTAGE OF PISSING PEOPLE OFF

There Are Advantages to Pissing People Off

“If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative. Keep your head on straight, don’t get emotional, take the heat, and just make sure your clients are smiling.”-Scott Boras, widely regarded as the most powerful agent in professional baseball

Doing anything remotely interesting and self beneficial will bring criticism. Attempting to do anything large-scale and interesting will bring on hoards of haters. This is fine and can be advantageous – if you are adept at the art of capitalizing off of haters.

First you have to accept one fact. Pissing people off is in inevitable. If you are ever going to be a success at anything you’re going to piss some people off and sprout some haters. It comes with the success, and moving on territory. But haters can work to your advantage.

The fact that haters can’t keep your name out of their mouth indicates to others there must be something really interesting about you. A classic hater statement that indicates they have no validity for their convictions is “he/she thinks ..they’re all that/ somebody”. They never say they think it, they say you think it. This gets others real interested in what it is you are doing that makes you so special. People that otherwise would’ve paid you no mind all of a sudden start looking at you. This is your time to really shine.

Then by consuming themselves with what you are doing, if they were in any sort of competition, they remove themselves. They spend countless moments pondering you, while you’re getting on with what you are doing. Whether it’s a job. school, a purchase, looks, whatever it is they’re pissed off about, isn’t going to change..
“Being responsible sometimes means pissing people off.” Good leadership involves responsibility to the welfare of the group, which means that some people will get angry at your actions and decisions. It’s inevitable-if you’re honorable. Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity. You’ll avoid the tough decisions, you’ll avoid confronting the people who need to be confronted, and you’ll avoid offering differential rewards based on differential performance because some people might get upset. Ironically, by procrastinating on the difficult choices, by trying not to get anyone mad, and by treating everyone equally “nicely” regardless of their contributions, you’ll simply ensure that the only people you’ll wind up angering are the most creative and productive people in the organization.

-General Colin Powell
Let’s look at some people who capitalized heavily off of pissing off people:
 Dr. Martin Luther King (Think how far back we’d be if he let haters detour him)
 Barack Obama (He’s got haters galore and you all know it)
 Rosa Parks
 Rush Limbaugh (The man has made himself a millionaire…pissing off people)
 Any Politician – Somebody is always pissed off at them, but they manage to turn it into a positive each time
 Any successful athlete: There is always an opponent that can’t stand them. They flip the script by putting on a stellar performance and making the opponent look bad
 Nelson Mandela – his haters are the very reason he’s one of the most loved and respected figures in the world
 George Bush- Pissed off half of America- Didn’t stop him from getting up everyday continuing to piss off more people by doing exactly what the hell he wanted to do.
The Art of Pissing Off People

Now be careful with this folks. Don’t run out and recklessly start messing with people, that’s not what I’m saying. That’s irresponsible and can get you killed. As a matter of a fact you don’t ever purposely set out to create haters. That won’t help your cause at all. Trust me though, if you are about something, doing something worthwhile, going somewhere in life, the haters will find you. Leave them alone, don’t stoop to their level, and you’ll find they will do the work for you. If the racist whites of the 50s & 60s had not kept so much noise about Dr. King, they would not have peaked the curiosity of the non racist whites, who wound up supporting his movement thus giving it even more power.

Take for instance those of you that may have tackled some controversial topics. Controversy is a sure fire way to spawn some haters and piss off some people. The pissed off people are going to surely make some noise to defend their position (whether credible or not) which is going to trigger the interests of those that weren’t privy to topic at the outset. They want to know what’s gotten these people all upset, so they come to see. Hold your ground, be responsible and a as I said earlier stay on your A game. Now’s the time to win some new friends, supporters, customers, thanks to the haters, and at the same time discredit the hater as well.

Your personal attributes or acquisitions have someone up on their hind legs? Well that’s not your problem. Whatever ever it is that’s gotten their fruit of the looms in a bunch, you make sure you keep it front and center. Don’t down play any positive attribute about yourself or life to pacify some jealous hater.

Someone hating on you because of your look, style, hair. or physique should be one hell of a self esteem and ego booster. So flaunt it if you’ve got it. Just don’t cross the confident and self assured line unto arrogant. If its some material possession that’s got them all riled up, nothing you can do but enjoy the possession. Say it’s a dress; well now you have a sure shot idea of the style that looks good on you, thanks to the haters popping up. If they hate on your home, your vehicle, know then your house and vehicle must be the bomb.
Maybe you have a very successful job or business going on. Make sure it remains successful and on track. Don’t let what haters say or think have you second guessing yourself. Keep doing what you are doing and let them stay pissed off.

Don’t get wrapped up in the haters, enjoy what you have. And keep your style, class, and wits about you, and reap the rewards from people being pissed off at you

How to Stop Letting Little Things in Life Piss You Off

Have you ever seen someone complain about a parking ticket as if it’s the end of the world?
Have you been cut off in traffic and let it ruin your whole day?
How many times have you let your experience at the airport (crying baby, delayed flight, missing luggage) be the first thing you bring up in conversations with friends?
I want you to repeat after me: “these things happen”.
We all have these types of events come up in life, but successful people just go on as if nothing has happened, and unsuccessful people let it derail them.
The next time you feel a surge of anger coming on over an insignificant event in your life, go over these points in your head:

1. You look like an idiot There is no polite way to put this. When others around you see you COMPLETELY lose it over the dent in your car door, they aren’t feeling sorry for you and wondering how they can help. They are subconsciously judging you and coming to one inescapable conclusion: you aren’t in control of your life.

If something this small throws you off, imagine how you’d react to a REAL problem in life. Overreacting tells the people around you that you can’t be trusted to deal with important issues. You’re not the goto guy (or gal) when they’re in need, because you can’t even take care of yourself.

1. The only person you’re hurting is yourself Did you ever realize that when you get upset at someone who cuts you off in traffic, they generally never even know? Usually they speed off never the wiser to your insults and gestures. By getting angry, you’re doing zero harm to them while simultaneously hurting yourself even more. That doesn’t make much sense, and is a waste of your precious time and energy.

Now here the zinger. What if that person purposely WANTED to upset you (they have some subconscious need to pick on others, they’re parents didn’t love them enough, etc)? Well then they are getting the exact reaction they wanted, and you’re playing right into they hands.
If you really want to mess with someone who flips you off in traffic, try smiling and waving back, and watch the confused look on their face. With time, you can even learn to appreciate and love these people (bizarre I know) for the important role they serve in life: helping to remind you how NOT to live. Don’t judge them, they are just at a different point in understanding life.

1. Find something to be grateful about So you’re sitting there in rush hour traffic about ready to tear your hair out. Train yourself to go right into gratitude, and start listing what you’re grateful for and what good can come from this situation.

Maybe its the perfect time to make a phone call to a loved one you’ve been putting off. Maybe you can get some “reading” done on that audio book you’re listening to and be grateful for the chance to learn something new. Maybe its just a chance to put things in perspective and marvel at how far technology has come. After all, primitive mankind would have had to walk this distance. You get to SIT in an air conditioned chair barely pushing the accelerator.

There is something good in every situation, and you can find it. Even if its just that you’re grateful for the chance to practice being grateful.

Unsuccessful people are REACTIVE. They are a leaf blowing in the wind, the world is happening around them, and they are just trying to stay alive. When something bad happens, someone did it TO them and they take it personally. They get caught up in the victim mentality and take every opportunity to let people know it.
Successful people, on the other hand, are PROACTIVE. They make things happen in life and are on a mission. And by golly, they aren’t going to let some silly parking ticket take them off their mission. Instead, they say to themselves “these things happen” and move on to more important tasks.